Comments on: Recover Your Personal Freedom With The Four Agreements

By: G Angela

G Angela — Sat, 12 Sep 2009 10:31:52 +0000

I fimly believe in the first agreement, and I know the difference it can make to oneself, its all about loving and respecting yourself, that keeps you happy, I am learning to keep the second agreement, by not taking things personally, sometimes its an unconsconcious reaction, but I am quick to shift in order to take responsibility for my own behaviour, the third one is very true assumptions create a lot of problems, and experience is the best teacher, the last one is the best – I believe wholeheartedly, thanks for sharing, enjoyed reading it, thanks for the reminder

By: Frank

Frank — Wed, 20 Aug 2008 00:09:09 +0000

These four agreements are awesome. They really helped me center around issues that have arised in my life lately. But there seems to be some sort of flaw…

Since the first agreement “Be impeccable with your word” the author is contradicting himself. What I mean by this is the FOCUS.

We should be focusing on the things we WANT right? Sort of what the law of atraction is about. So, for example, if we go to the third agreement “Donâ€™t make assumptions” we are focusing on assumptions. What would happen if we re-wrote these four agreements to focus on the things we REALLY want. I gave it my shot and came up with the restructure as the following:

1.- Be correct with your word

2.- Take things objectively

3.- Make acknowledgements

4.- Always do your best

What do you think?

By: Loraleigh Vance

Loraleigh Vance — Thu, 12 Jun 2008 20:51:38 +0000

Thanks for the reminder.

I tend to take things personally. Ever since I’ve been knee high to a grass hopper I’ve always heard that I was too sensitive for my own good. It’s been so true.

The behaviors of others often comes from something completely unrelated to me.

Now if I could just remember that!

By: Nathalie Lussier

Nathalie Lussier — Wed, 11 Jun 2008 16:57:32 +0000

Yes, I agree with you.. particularly with “do not make assumptions” at times they really put us in big trouble.

By: Matt @ Face Your Fork

Matt @ Face Your Fork — Tue, 10 Jun 2008 20:24:23 +0000

I have never known Jesus Christ to be the type of person who would ask questions to others and clarify his beliefs (as in, modify them when new information arose). I may be wrong! But it’s just my observation. :P

By: Andrea Hess|Empowered Soul

Andrea Hess|Empowered Soul — Sat, 07 Jun 2008 14:15:41 +0000

Great reminder of a wonderful book! The first agreement has always been especially precious to me. Maybe it’s because I love language and words (must be the inner writer … :-)), but also because what we say influences our intent and thus what we create in our lives.

Blessings,
Andrea

By: Ulyana

Ulyana — Fri, 06 Jun 2008 17:42:17 +0000

What a refreshing post! Something I had to learn when I joined the workforce is not to take things personally. Once I learned that, my life became so much easier. Also, I’d like to add to that, as part of not taking things personally, it really helps to always assume positive intent when thinking about your co-workers’ actions and stay focused on achieving company goals.

By: Jonathan

Jonathan — Fri, 06 Jun 2008 16:57:22 +0000

Michael,

These agreements are so simple, but hard to keep. The key is just making the commitment to do your best everyday. By doing that we can break all of our self-defeating agreements more and more each day, until our personal freedom is recovered.

Evelyn,

I completely agree. I think the most profound agreement for me has been not going against myself. When I go with myself I naturally keep all the other agreements, including not taking things personally, not making assumptions and doing my best.

Mary,

I think we have a natural tendency to resent ourselves when we don’t do our best. But the truth is, we’re really all doing the best we can with what we have.

Jemi,

Not taking things personally is tricky. You can always wonder whether or not something someone did had something to do with you. The truth is that we can only work within our own circle of influence. We can only control our own actions. After that, we have to accept others, and not take things personally. Great comment J-Woman! =)

RJ,

I agree RJ, there is no try for me. Whenever I feel like I’m “trying” I feel like I’m not committed. That’s what the fourth agreement is about, just do your best. The hardest part is realizing that your best will be different at different times. When you’re full of energy your best will naturally be better when you’re tired and it’s the end of the day. I think that’s why it’s important to pay attention to your natural rhythms. Go with yourself, you know?

By: RJ

RJ — Fri, 06 Jun 2008 16:06:02 +0000

I’m a firm believer in number 3.
Afterall, “When you assume, you make an ass of yourself.”
Also, I really like that you said always “DO” your best instead of “try”. To me the word try carries with it the possibility of failue, that you don’t give 100% effort. As if you are in the middle with a chance to go one way or the other. I’d rather “do” or “don’t do”. A product of my simplistic thinking I guess ^_^.
Enjoyed this post Jonathan.

By: JEMi | Tips for Life, Love, You

JEMi | Tips for Life, Love, You — Fri, 06 Jun 2008 08:20:17 +0000

The first of these agreements that I started to implement was Dont Take Anything Personally. I forget often but I’m getting better at implementing it. Whenever I do, I am always relieved bc honestly, taking things personally has been a major stressor in my life for a very long time.

Then Always Do Your Best has helped me live in the present moment and not cop out so much with tasks that are less than thrilling. And its funny how doing everything with higher quality makes your feel better about yourself!

1 and 3 are very important as well and there is no time like the present to begin implementing these

I think these def. lead to a much richer life. Deceptively simple is so correct lol!

Great post J-Man!