Comments on: 5 Signs Self-Help Is Ruining Your Life http://www.illuminatedmind.net/2008/07/02/5-signs-self-hel-is-ruining-your-life/ Live on Your Own Terms Wed, 10 Mar 2010 03:47:16 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: 10 Signs You’re a Productivity Junkie | Evan's Press http://www.illuminatedmind.net/2008/07/02/5-signs-self-hel-is-ruining-your-life/#comment-30337 10 Signs You’re a Productivity Junkie | Evan's Press Tue, 19 Jan 2010 11:30:32 +0000 http://www.illuminatedmind.net/?p=54#comment-30337 [...] productivity too far. It can become more of a hobby than a means to an end. Just like a little too much self-help can hurt rather than help (too much thinking, not enough doing), obsession with efficiency can distract you [...] [...] productivity too far. It can become more of a hobby than a means to an end. Just like a little too much self-help can hurt rather than help (too much thinking, not enough doing), obsession with efficiency can distract you [...]

]]> By: Peter Toth http://www.illuminatedmind.net/2008/07/02/5-signs-self-hel-is-ruining-your-life/#comment-17767 Peter Toth Sat, 29 Aug 2009 15:12:49 +0000 http://www.illuminatedmind.net/?p=54#comment-17767 Hi Jonathan, I am new reader of your blog and I wanted to get idea what are your teaching about so I am reading all your articles. It seems pretty good so continue :). I would like explain something you here. I am studying Tonny Robbins work because he got results. Point of fire walk is not motivation. Point of fire walk is to show people that they can do what they thought they aren't able, to show them how incorect could be their beliefs about world. Motivation is just result for some people. I really like the whole idea because it is real experience which is great way how to make someone thinking about his belief of world. Second of all I also thought about Tony as motivational speaker, but after studying him and his work I found there is much more than that. Don't forget that his work is based also on NLP(not only) which he learned from Grinder him self. There is deeper meaning to it. I recomend you get Creating Lasting Change program where he teach about his work. Take care, Peter. Hi Jonathan,

I am new reader of your blog and I wanted to get idea what are your teaching about so I am reading all your articles. It seems pretty good so continue :).

I would like explain something you here. I am studying Tonny Robbins work because he got results. Point of fire walk is not motivation. Point of fire walk is to show people that they can do what they thought they aren’t able, to show them how incorect could be their beliefs about world. Motivation is just result for some people. I really like the whole idea because it is real experience which is great way how to make someone thinking about his belief of world.

Second of all I also thought about Tony as motivational speaker, but after studying him and his work I found there is much more than that. Don’t forget that his work is based also on NLP(not only) which he learned from Grinder him self. There is deeper meaning to it.

I recomend you get Creating Lasting Change program where he teach about his work.

Take care, Peter.

]]> By: Unknown. « Bellatoscana’s Weblog http://www.illuminatedmind.net/2008/07/02/5-signs-self-hel-is-ruining-your-life/#comment-12155 Unknown. « Bellatoscana’s Weblog Tue, 19 May 2009 18:56:17 +0000 http://www.illuminatedmind.net/?p=54#comment-12155 [...] up trying to constantly improve yourself. Sometimes too much self improvement can cause you to lose sight of the [...] [...] up trying to constantly improve yourself. Sometimes too much self improvement can cause you to lose sight of the [...]

]]> By: Molly http://www.illuminatedmind.net/2008/07/02/5-signs-self-hel-is-ruining-your-life/#comment-11731 Molly Tue, 12 May 2009 02:13:01 +0000 http://www.illuminatedmind.net/?p=54#comment-11731 I have to admit--I am a self-help junkie. I'm trying to ween myself from this, as the benefits are never really outweighed by the feelings of dependence on these books. I think I picked up my first one about 5 years ago, and everytime I think one seems to be working, I am great for a month or so, and then inevitably return to the great search of finding the next book that will fix me. It makes me feel even more helpless, complacent and powerless, rather than "pumping me up". I think I live up in my brain a little too much, and ruminate until the cows come home. Self-help books then just seem to add fuel to the fire. I have to admit–I am a self-help junkie. I’m trying to ween myself from this, as the benefits are never really outweighed by the feelings of dependence on these books. I think I picked up my first one about 5 years ago, and everytime I think one seems to be working, I am great for a month or so, and then inevitably return to the great search of finding the next book that will fix me. It makes me feel even more helpless, complacent and powerless, rather than “pumping me up”. I think I live up in my brain a little too much, and ruminate until the cows come home. Self-help books then just seem to add fuel to the fire.

]]> By: 10 Signs You’re a Productivity Junkie | Blackstreak.net http://www.illuminatedmind.net/2008/07/02/5-signs-self-hel-is-ruining-your-life/#comment-5280 10 Signs You’re a Productivity Junkie | Blackstreak.net Fri, 19 Dec 2008 15:32:45 +0000 http://www.illuminatedmind.net/?p=54#comment-5280 [...] take productivity too far. It can become more of a hobby than a means to an end. Just like a little too much self-help can hurt rather than help (too much thinking, not enough doing), obsession with efficiency can distract you [...] [...] take productivity too far. It can become more of a hobby than a means to an end. Just like a little too much self-help can hurt rather than help (too much thinking, not enough doing), obsession with efficiency can distract you [...]

]]> By: Adrienne http://www.illuminatedmind.net/2008/07/02/5-signs-self-hel-is-ruining-your-life/#comment-4873 Adrienne Thu, 04 Dec 2008 21:22:56 +0000 http://www.illuminatedmind.net/?p=54#comment-4873 Your column is uber funny. You have described me to a tee. I dunno, it beats playing scratch offs. I like your style, keep up the good work--on the hurry up if you don't mind. :-) Adrienne Your column is uber funny. You have described me to a tee. I dunno, it beats playing scratch offs. I like your style, keep up the good work–on the hurry up if you don’t mind. :-) Adrienne

]]> By: 10 Signs You’re a Productivity Junkie | Zen Habits http://www.illuminatedmind.net/2008/07/02/5-signs-self-hel-is-ruining-your-life/#comment-4843 10 Signs You’re a Productivity Junkie | Zen Habits Thu, 04 Dec 2008 00:49:56 +0000 http://www.illuminatedmind.net/?p=54#comment-4843 [...] take productivity too far. It can become more of a hobby than a means to an end. Just like a little too much self-help can hurt rather than help (too much thinking, not enough doing), obsession with efficiency can distract you [...] [...] take productivity too far. It can become more of a hobby than a means to an end. Just like a little too much self-help can hurt rather than help (too much thinking, not enough doing), obsession with efficiency can distract you [...]

]]> By: Umbratikus http://www.illuminatedmind.net/2008/07/02/5-signs-self-hel-is-ruining-your-life/#comment-4765 Umbratikus Mon, 01 Dec 2008 15:10:13 +0000 http://www.illuminatedmind.net/?p=54#comment-4765 You know, I was teetering on the brink of unsubscribing from your blog. Yes, you spout a lot of pop wisdom and truth, but for the most part, it wasn't anything I haven't heard or read before. What you are doing is great, but I wasn't getting as much fresh thinking as I was looking for. Until this post, that is. I agree with you wholeheartedly and I thought I was the only one who felt this way. The whole term "hack" has an extremely negative connotation for me. One of my guiding principles is authenticity. Some people are so focused on "self improvement," that they lose sight of who they really are. Never lose sight of who you are. Learn and grow, but don't trade yourself for someone else's vision of who you should be. You know, I was teetering on the brink of unsubscribing from your blog. Yes, you spout a lot of pop wisdom and truth, but for the most part, it wasn’t anything I haven’t heard or read before. What you are doing is great, but I wasn’t getting as much fresh thinking as I was looking for. Until this post, that is. I agree with you wholeheartedly and I thought I was the only one who felt this way. The whole term “hack” has an extremely negative connotation for me.

One of my guiding principles is authenticity. Some people are so focused on “self improvement,” that they lose sight of who they really are. Never lose sight of who you are. Learn and grow, but don’t trade yourself for someone else’s vision of who you should be.

]]> By: Deniro http://www.illuminatedmind.net/2008/07/02/5-signs-self-hel-is-ruining-your-life/#comment-3013 Deniro Sun, 05 Oct 2008 14:42:14 +0000 http://www.illuminatedmind.net/?p=54#comment-3013 lol @ Anthony...that aint my style either.. lol @ Anthony…that aint my style either..

]]> By: nirvana diva http://www.illuminatedmind.net/2008/07/02/5-signs-self-hel-is-ruining-your-life/#comment-2597 nirvana diva Thu, 11 Sep 2008 06:08:23 +0000 http://www.illuminatedmind.net/?p=54#comment-2597 wow...cynical much? you know ,cynicism is an addiction also. and in fact, it's just another form of "venting". i absolutely LOVE your blog though and i agree with almost everything. Glad i found it and now get the rss feed. Thanks! wow…cynical much? you know ,cynicism is an addiction also. and in fact, it’s just another form of “venting”. i absolutely LOVE your blog though and i agree with almost everything. Glad i found it and now get the rss feed. Thanks!

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